Ego or egoism?? The ego can help set healthy boundries - but some push the ego to infinity and beyond. Hmmm...are you willing to argue your point or opinion just to be right?  AKA - "right-fighter." Do you NEED to be right?? Egoism is an unhealthy attachment to having it your way all the time. Let's experiment - holidays with family, extended family and friends can be stressful  - consider letting go of the draw (or maybe habit) to be the "winner."